As an experienced New Jersey Divorce Lawyer, clients always ask me the difference between a mediator and an arbitrator. A mediator is a neutral third person. It could be an attorney, it could be a forensic accountant, it could be a psychologist, it could be a religious leader who helps the parties narrow down the issues between them. The mediator’s only agenda in a case is to get a settlement. They are not allowed to give you legal advice, which is why it is very important that you also have an attorney in your corner to guide you as to the legal aspects of your matter.